We are all like pianos
Are you like me? Do you sometimes feel like the universe is talking to you? You’ve just learned something and already the following week, you get the chance to put it into practice. Some things persist and others don’t. This is what I call the concept of a new frequency opening up to you.
I have experienced it while learning new vocabulary. And I’ve noticed that new theories in one field can inspire us in another. They allow us to gain new points of view, which sometimes help us to go further.
Personally, I love it when I’m able to draw parallels between different universes. I know that such parallels are limited and certainly are not to be taken as absolutes, but they often help. It is also important to constantly edit and test them to understand when it is best to use them. Over the years, I’ve managed to apply some theories from the field of physics to our interactions with others.
When will you be able to use the concept of frequency?
I often use it when:
- I feel strange and I don’t understand the logic. Logic is important to make sense of a situation and without it, it is very difficult to move forward.
- I’m having a hard time understanding someone’s behaviour or where they are coming from.
- I want to make sure I communicate the right message to the right person.
- I cannot come up with any solutions to a managerial problem.
A few physical phenomena to give us shared vocabulary
Time is incredible: truly, the fourth dimension. It provides an additional point of view for everything. The science of wave physics uses the concept of time in many of its equations to explain various phenomena. It has a great vocabulary, highly useful to understand. The 4 most important ones are:
I’ve already talked to you about wavelength and speed. In this article, I’ll talk specifically about frequency.
We Are Evolving Pianos
I like to think that we are all pianos. In that way, each note on our pianos is an element of our lives that resonates within us. And because there are many things in our lives that stimulate us, our pianos have several notes.
What is a frequency for us?
Everything that we are passionate or knowledgeable about is therefore a note on our piano, and every note has a specific frequency. For example:
- Playing music
- Reading history books
- Getting to the gym
- Learning new languages
- Honing management skills
- Becoming a firefighter, a police officer, a nurse…
The more expertise you develop, the more precise your notes become.
Let’s say you like playing music, and you’ve been playing guitar for a few years. You have not yet learned to read or write music. Your level of expertise – and therefore the precision of your notes/frequencies – will be much less developed than a conductor who has dedicated his entire life to music.
Level of Detail in Frequency Concept
So I’m watching an Olympic figure skating competition. I can definitely sense that the skaters are wonderful and talented, but I sure wouldn’t want to be a judge. I just don’t have a way of recognizing the small details that make one movement more difficult and better executed than another. But I’m able to watch and enjoy all the same – at my level of detail. The judges, however, perceive elements – more detailed frequencies – that are invisible to the amateur eye. My expertise being limited, my piano will have fewer notes in the same frequency range.
How do we add frequencies or notes to our piano?
More energy is required to listen to a note in a range we don’t have expertise in, compared to a note in a range we have mastered.
For example, let’s say you have a friend who is an expert in physics and you haven’t done as much training or reading as he has on the subject. Listening to him talk about physics for long hours will require more concentration than if you were discussing your favourite band.
The thing that really drains energy, then, is talking about a subject or doing things in an area of no interest to you. In this case, this uninteresting discussion or activity would be like trying to add a whole new section to your piano. It is certainly not easy, but if you’ve got energy, it is possible.
To increase the level of precision, the level of detail, that also requires energy, as we have to learn and look for nuances. Going from novice to expert requires effort.
So to add frequencies/notes to your piano, you have to:
- do new things,
- talk to new people,
- experience unusual situations.
In short, you’ve got to try things!
How to optimize your energy
To have more energy and continuously improve, you can do nothing better than to balance your time. I urge you to refer to the time distribution guide that I created for this very reason. (To get yours, enter your name and email into the form below.)
How to apply this frequency concept immediately
After reading this article, there is a good chance that you will start noticing the concept of frequency in your life right away. You might find yourself:
- Noticing the energy required to learn something new; or
- Acknowledging that you are not an expert in something, and more notes are available to you if you want to learn them; or
- Appreciating another person’s piano range.
Next time you feel uncomfortable, recall the concept of frequency. Ask yourself the following questions:
Is the level of detail not aligned? For example, the person you’re speaking with is an expert and you aren’t able to follow their line of thought.
Is the type of conversation or the topic not interesting, or the activity not stimulating?
In the first case, let the person know that their level of detail is too granular, and you cannot keep up or contribute. If you have the energy, take the time to better understand the area. You’ll be surprised, next time you talk it will go much more smoothly.
In the second case, if you have the energy to ask questions, try to broaden your horizons. If you feel you don’t have the energy, subtly change the subject.
Bonus: The concept of frequency is very useful in a networking setting
Have you ever been to networking events? Are you like me and feel like most people are having more fun than you? Your conversations always seem to end quickly.
In reality, we almost all feel that way. Everyone comes with different objectives. We’re not all on the same frequency.
Now that we know the concept of frequency, we understand that it is more difficult to have long conversations when our frequencies are not aligned. Instead of thinking you’re not interesting, assume that you just haven’t yet found a common frequency.
When you start a new relationship or discussion, find a shared frequency
What to do next
Identify events where frequencies are not aligned. Then reflect on how it makes you feel to know that it’s only a matter of different frequencies.
Share your experiences in the comments below, I am curious to hear from you and to know whether this new vocabulary helps you.